If you’re finding yourself handling the bulk of the diaper changes and want to get dad more involved, it’s about working together and making it easy—not turning diaper duty into a battleground.
Here’s how you can make the process smoother for everyone involved and even add some fun to the mix.
How to get dad to change diapers
1. Working together
Parenting is a tag-team effort, and diaper duty is no different.
A casual “It’s your turn!” is all you need to remind dad that you’re both in this together. No need for long-winded negotiations—just a simple nudge. Most of the time, dads aren’t avoiding the task; they just need to be told exactly how you need their support.
2. Avoid micromanaging
We all have our own way of doing things, and when it comes to diapers, the same rule applies.
Resist the urge to correct his technique or step in. Micromanaging, especially on something like diaper changes, can take the fun out of the process and make anyone feel like they’re not doing it “right.”
Give him the space to figure out his own method, and trust that the diaper will end up where it’s supposed to!
3. Keep it organized and simple
One of the easiest ways to take the hassle out of diaper duty is by keeping everything in one place.
Whether it’s a dedicated diaper caddy or a basket near the changing area, having all the essentials—diapers, wipes, and diaper lotion—within arm’s reach makes the job faster and more efficient.
This isn’t just helpful for dad; it’s a game changer for you, too. When everything is easy to find, the task becomes less of a chore and more of a routine.
4. Laugh at your own diapering mishaps
Let’s face it: every parent has their fair share of diaper-changing disasters.
From surprise sprinkles to that time you got baby poop all over the bed, we’ve all been there. Sharing those stories with dad (and laughing about them!) can help take the pressure off. Diaper changes don’t have to be perfect, and being open about your own mishaps shows that it’s okay to mess up.
Babies don’t care if the diaper isn’t put on flawlessly—they just want a clean bottom!
5. “Be the change you want to see in the world”
Yes, we can apply Gandhi's wisdom to diaper duty.
One of the best ways to encourage dad to get involved is by showing him that diapering doesn’t have to be a tedious task.
Focus on creating a fun, bonding experience with your baby during changes—singing silly songs, making faces, or just having a little chat. Not only does this make the process more enjoyable for you, but it also shows dad that diaper duty can be a sweet moment with the baby.
Above all, do this for yourself—when diapering feels like a loving routine instead of a chore, everyone benefits.
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At the end of the day, diaper duty is just another part of parenthood, and there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be a shared responsibility.
With a bit of humor, some teamwork, and a relaxed approach, you can make the whole process easier for both of you—no micromanaging needed. And who knows? Dad might even start looking forward to his turn!